The difference:

Amber: You look tired.

Me: I am. I'm very tired.

Amber: Yeah, you have bags under your eyes. Like, they are puffy right here. You still look tired even with your make-up on.

Me: Thanks so much.

Jeremy: You look tired.

Me: I am.

Jeremy: Your eyes have that watery, trying-not-to-cry look. Are you okay?

Me: *nod*

Jeremy: Do you want some caffeine?

I don't know if you can see it, but to me, there is a world of difference in those two conversations from tonight. She pointed out what was wrong with me even after I did my best to fix it. She made me feel even worse. He noticed the details (I cry when I get really tired), was concerned, and then offered a solution (that worked.)

But I really am tired. So goodnight.